Category: guest post

  • How to punt

    How to punt

    Image of Simonova and Bond, (James Bond). This post was written back in 2016, but as it is the best advice I have ever seen which is written about successfully being a sex worker’s client successfully, I contacted the writer and asked if I could put it here.  Thank you to the client, known as…

  • Exploring this blog

    Exploring this blog

    My first R18 splash page on the hosted website using my own domain Welcome to my website!  Remember when most new websites had that on them?  I remember attending a course for a company I worked for and the instructor specifically said it was a no-no.  “We don’t write Welcome to our Brochure on our…

  • Not About The Heart Of Darkness; Whoring As A Profession At The End Of Capitalism*

    Not About The Heart Of Darkness; Whoring As A Profession At The End Of Capitalism*

    This is a guest post by Christchurch escort Clio** the Whore. ‘You live in a fantasy’, says my client wistfully. He is lying on my bed in a state of post coital triste, having expounded to me his marital problems. He looks around him, at the beautiful room bathed in golden light with its fin…

  • Love as community

    Love as community

    Tiziano Vecellio, called Titian (b. Pieve di Cadore, ca. 1488-d. Venice, 1576), Venus Blindfolding Cupid, ca. 1565, Borghese Gallery, Rome A contemplation on Amber O’Hara’s What gets women off? and Love within Sex Work. Amber O’Hara proposes an interesting question in her two part series What gets women off? One guesses she explores this question…

  • Equal and Unequal Measures

    Equal and Unequal Measures

    by Clio the Whore A Tourist’s Guide to the BDSM World Status is a funny thing and not always what you think it is. Service to others comes in surprising forms. What looks like sheer selfishness can in fact be a pure act of love. Where there is pain, there can be pleasure, in equal…

  • Sex and Skin Hunger

    Sex and Skin Hunger

    Image: J W Waterhouse The Awakening of Adonis (detail) Here is a guest post by a client talking about how sex workers have helped the issue of ‘skin hunger’ for him personally, following a discussion we had during our booking, which he has mentioned below.  I invited him to contribute to my blog after this discussion…

  • Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    A guest contributor on my blog last year wrote in favour of mature ladies, acknowledging the benefits of more experience and knowledge of the wonders of a woman’s sexuality. While agreeing with this, as an “enlightened” (or I could say mature) woman who now feels okay about being real about my age – and a…

  • Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts

    Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts

    Sometimes couples stay together because they really love each other and want to continue the personal investment they’ve made in their past and the family unit and home. The monogamous ideas that have been passed down through the ages means that couple are obliged to only make love with each other until the end of…

  • Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint

    Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint

    The day I visited my friend and fellow sex worker, Clio, at her house*, I was wearing my (non-sex worker-like) day clothes of jeans and a plain, dark woollen top and carrying a large, black art portfolio, as I was visiting to show Clio some sketches from a creative project I started at university. As…

  • Fond Farewells

    Fond Farewells

    This is a final blog post, by my friend, Clio the ex-whore, recently retired. Retirement only sort of suits me. Only a couple of weeks ago an ex colleague and I were reminiscing over a few cocktails. We don’t miss it, we said, isn’t great to have a straight job and be proper respectable women…

  • The joy of (phone) sex

    The joy of (phone) sex

    Among the men I am fortunate to sexually liaise with are interesting, intelligent, creative types. One of my clients who I regularly enjoy phone sex with is in this category and he thanked me by sending me his account of a recent session.  I find it very erotic.  He has given me permission to share it. …

  • What it’s like to be the only one

    What it’s like to be the only one

    Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch.  It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…

  • OUT!

    OUT!

    The Scream by Edvard Munch One thing sex workers seem to fear most is being outed, or an aspect of their lives being outed, and interestingly it is probably the most well-used threat some sex workers make against others. However, quite often sex workers let things slip, for example by their lifestyles or in conversations…

  • Advice from a Client

    Advice from a Client

    Les Nymphes et le Satyre by William Bouguereau. 1873, Clark Art Institute, Williamstown, Massachusetts. I welcome contributions from readers and clients, and while the contributor below has never been to see me, I gather he has chalked up quite a bit of experience seeing working ladies in his time.  Over to him: I have been…