Category: punting

  • How to punt

    How to punt

    Image of Simonova and Bond, (James Bond). This post was written back in 2016, but as it is the best advice I have ever seen which is written about successfully being a sex worker’s client successfully, I contacted the writer and asked if I could put it here.  Thank you to the client, known as…

  • Exploring this blog

    Exploring this blog

    My first R18 splash page on the hosted website using my own domain Welcome to my website!  Remember when most new websites had that on them?  I remember attending a course for a company I worked for and the instructor specifically said it was a no-no.  “We don’t write Welcome to our Brochure on our…

  • Advertising and “bait and switch”

    Advertising and “bait and switch”

    With improvements in technology and the Prostitution Reform Act and ladies becoming independent and doing their own marketing, the sex industry has come so far.  You can more or less expect to get what you see in the photographs with independent escorts, although some complain of dishonest or overly-flattering photos or photos which were taken…

  • Equal and Unequal Measures

    Equal and Unequal Measures

    by Clio the Whore A Tourist’s Guide to the BDSM World Status is a funny thing and not always what you think it is. Service to others comes in surprising forms. What looks like sheer selfishness can in fact be a pure act of love. Where there is pain, there can be pleasure, in equal…

  • Is your New Year’s resolution to have more sex?

    Is your New Year’s resolution to have more sex?

    Image: Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise in Eyes Wide Shut In 1999, Stanley Kubrick released his last film, Eyes Wide Shut, which starred Kidman and Cruise, ‘a Hollywood couple whose marriage was in trouble, about a New York couple whose marriage was in trouble.’  It was famous for an orgy scene, but in the subtext of the…

  • Sex and Skin Hunger

    Sex and Skin Hunger

    Image: J W Waterhouse The Awakening of Adonis (detail) Here is a guest post by a client talking about how sex workers have helped the issue of ‘skin hunger’ for him personally, following a discussion we had during our booking, which he has mentioned below.  I invited him to contribute to my blog after this discussion…

  • Sex and religion – twain meeting

    Sex and religion – twain meeting

    I always find it funny how sex (work) and religion are such a taboo combination when, as I mentioned in a previous blog post, Jesus himself was friends with a hooker. As far as churches go though, I have never found anywhere that I fit in.  Even when I wasn’t a sex worker.  There was…

  • Sucking and Licking

    Sucking and Licking

    What do blow jobs have in common with Lobster Thermidor? We don’t get Lobster Thermidor at home much either. If you don’t get blow jobs much at home, as this well-known joke hints, you’re in luck, because most sex workers claim to love blow jobs, and in fact most quote the humble blow job as…

  • Lady on lady sex work adventures

    Lady on lady sex work adventures

    Golden Head by Golden Head, illustration by Dante Rossetti for Christina Rossetti’s Goblin Marketand Other Poems(1862) Golden head by golden head, Like two pigeons in one nest Folded in each other’s wings, They lay down in their curtained bed – Christina Rossetti in Goblin Market It’s not just men who enjoy sexy times with sex…

  • Actresses on Mattresses

    Actresses on Mattresses

    While sex workers can genuinely feel affection for some clients, there is usually an element of acting involved (as opposed to robotic and clinical sex work), whether it involves putting on a brave face when things are less than stellar in their private lives, or acting professionally pleasant when you just don’t feel like it…

  • Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    Must we mature sex workers still lie about our age?

    A guest contributor on my blog last year wrote in favour of mature ladies, acknowledging the benefits of more experience and knowledge of the wonders of a woman’s sexuality. While agreeing with this, as an “enlightened” (or I could say mature) woman who now feels okay about being real about my age – and a…

  • Is tantric sex desirable or even advisable with a sex worker?

    Is tantric sex desirable or even advisable with a sex worker?

    It’s no secret that one of my favourite “types” of sex is the tantric kind: a kind of slow, meditative, close and not necessarily climactic linking of two people. It’s indulgent: like savouring every mouthful – flavour, texture and sensation – of your favourite kind of food or wine and thoughtfully appreciating it even once…

  • Deeper and Deeper

    Deeper and Deeper

    Still images in this blogpost are all from Madonna’s official video for Deeper and Deeper. Beware!  Our idols and demons will pursue us, until we learn to let them go! Now that I am a lady of a certain age, different things matter to me.  I like to take time smelling the roses, and I’m…

  • Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts

    Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts

    Sometimes couples stay together because they really love each other and want to continue the personal investment they’ve made in their past and the family unit and home. The monogamous ideas that have been passed down through the ages means that couple are obliged to only make love with each other until the end of…

  • Outsourcing of sex relations to a sex worker

    Outsourcing of sex relations to a sex worker

    Photo: Ever since I was a young girl, I have had a thing for lace. I love reading blogs about sex work and Maggie McNeill’s blog, the Honest Courtesan, is surely one of the best.  One of my favourite posts is this one, A Whore in the Bedroom, which she wrote for ladies.  It got…

  • What do men like?

    What do men like?

    Johann Zoffany: (part of) The Tribuna of the Uffizi (feat. Titian: Venus of Urbino) Here is a controversial anti-feminist – or is it? – statement by Amber O’Hara: Men are the delicious other halves of our lives – the yang to our yin, the strong to our vulnerable (supposedly) and the penises to our vaginas (if we…

  • What’s a nice girl like me doing in a job like this?

    What’s a nice girl like me doing in a job like this?

    So people sometimes ask me, “what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?” Well – First of all, the place I work is really rather nice and I can honestly say, I am in the best working situation I have ever had.  I set my own hours, my own rates, and…

  • In praise of quickies

    In praise of quickies

    The Persistence of Memory by Salvador Dali I have to say, I’m not much of a time-keeper in the room.  I never schedule bookings back to back, it is very rare that there isn’t enough time in between bookings for me to have myself and my boudoir looking just how I want it to be.…

  • A rose by any other name

    A rose by any other name

    Image: The Soul of a Rose by JW Waterhouse A lot of people call and ask about services, but if they are not that familiar with the sex industry or have never visited a working girl, they may not understand the meanings of some of the terms I (or other working girls) might use.  So…

  • A Bossy Girl Or a Dominatrix?

    A Bossy Girl Or a Dominatrix?

    Remember when you were a kid and you’d see a loud-mouthed 12 year old girl getting about with a couple of 10 year old boys in tow hanging on to her every word, she’d be ordering them about, getting them to buy her gob-stoppers and generally acting like she owned the place?  Well I wasn’t…

  • Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)

    Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)

    I’ve seen the OWE (other woman experience) happen a wee bit in my time doing sex work.  Last year a working girl friend of mine had a year long (in his eyes it was an affair) series of bookings with a regular client who declared his undying love, promised exotic holidays which she turned down…

  • Men’s fantasies – Porn Star Experience (PSE)

    Men’s fantasies – Porn Star Experience (PSE)

    It’s the fantasy of a lot of men to fuck a porn star or fuck like a porn star but sadly it is beyond reach for most guys.  However if you visit a sex worker who specialises in PSE, it’s like you can direct and star in your very own porn movie with a very…

  • Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)

    Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)

    Amber O’Hara’s mirror selfie in her boudoir Men who are single or whose partners are choosing to abstain from sex often have a desire or a fantasy for a more intimate and connecting sexual experience as if they were in the bed of a hot girlfriend who will not smack his hand or make him…

  • Men love to look

    Men love to look

    How to hold the attention of men* There comes an interesting time in the lives of young women when we realise the effect that our body has on men.  It could be when out of the corner of our eye, we see that male head is turned as we totter across the road in our…

  • Is your heart safe?

    Is your heart safe?

    La Belle Dame Sans Merci, painted by Sir Frank Francis Bernard Dicksee Can sex work involve real affection or is one or both parties just being played? I don’t consider whatever feelings I’ve ever had or that have ever been declared to me during sex work ‘true love’, whatever the fuck that is, but I…

  • What to do if you bump into your sex worker in public

    What to do if you bump into your sex worker in public

    Image: Bob Hoskins and Cathy Tyson from the film, Mona Lisa (1986) We all need to get out and about in the world to buy stuff and whatever, and sometimes we are with our families, work colleagues, friends or partners when a sex worker bumps into one of her clients. So what is the correct…

  • Don’t give me culture!

    Don’t give me culture!

    I share my favourites from the world of culture: film, music and the arts on my “keeper” list. These ones are all erotic and/or sex work related. My favourite typecast actress would have to be Anita Morris, who normally plays the horny redhead. You will recognise her from the She Was Hot (Rolling Stones) video;…

  • Cleanliness and godliness

    Cleanliness and godliness

    The other day I was in a cafe and there was a young mother at the next table.  She screwed up her nose a bit and said to her son, about 11 years old, “have you had a shower today?”  He was quick to say yes, but I quickly glanced at his mother and she…

  • Flirting and Squirting

    Flirting and Squirting

    My Nanna when she was alive was an incorrigible flirt.  Even as she was dying in hospital, she was batting her eyelashes at and flirting with the male nurses, who were generous enough to humour her and play along.  She used to say that every man deserves to be flirted with, that it’s good for…

  • Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word

    Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word

    A mention of Amber O’Hara from a brief round up of websites of sex workers by a kind client I have met sex workers who have fallen in love with their clients and “ended up” together, so I guess the answer to the question, Do sex workers and clients fall in love? is yes.  Love can…