Tag: law
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Sex work after lockdown
You can’t please all of the people all of the time. You’ll need to login to enjoy this anonymous phone message It seems not long ago that Covid-19 broke out and we were forced into lockdown, and now we are nearly into level 2. According to the government business website, in level 2, non-medical massage…
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Not About The Heart Of Darkness; Whoring As A Profession At The End Of Capitalism*
This is a guest post by Christchurch escort Clio** the Whore. ‘You live in a fantasy’, says my client wistfully. He is lying on my bed in a state of post coital triste, having expounded to me his marital problems. He looks around him, at the beautiful room bathed in golden light with its fin…
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Ways to do sex work – part three (being a domme)
Dominique Stern, a character created by musician Gene Simmons What a mysterious world the provision of domination and fetish services is. It may be an area you’d consider exploring if you have an interest in certain kinks. Sometimes it’s a service that occasionally sex workers branch out into when they are wanting to go beyond…
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Is your New Year’s resolution to have more sex?
Image: Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise in Eyes Wide Shut In 1999, Stanley Kubrick released his last film, Eyes Wide Shut, which starred Kidman and Cruise, ‘a Hollywood couple whose marriage was in trouble, about a New York couple whose marriage was in trouble.’ It was famous for an orgy scene, but in the subtext of the…
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Some men (who love their wives) visit escorts
Sometimes couples stay together because they really love each other and want to continue the personal investment they’ve made in their past and the family unit and home. The monogamous ideas that have been passed down through the ages means that couple are obliged to only make love with each other until the end of…
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Cleanliness and godliness
The other day I was in a cafe and there was a young mother at the next table. She screwed up her nose a bit and said to her son, about 11 years old, “have you had a shower today?” He was quick to say yes, but I quickly glanced at his mother and she…
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I can’t make you love me
It is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say so to our faces. In the media, society’s attitude toward sex work is reflected often, even in the supposedly more…
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Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint
The day I visited my friend and fellow sex worker, Clio, at her house*, I was wearing my (non-sex worker-like) day clothes of jeans and a plain, dark woollen top and carrying a large, black art portfolio, as I was visiting to show Clio some sketches from a creative project I started at university. As…
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Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco
This blog post may not be of interest to many readers because it is about a film that not many will get to see and it is not really a film that’s even worth seeking out. But it’s about buying sex, which involves clients of sex workers so I thought I would give my take…
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Forced conversations when you’ve been outed
Cyber bullying comes in many forms, from the relatively mild (but still harmful) tweet-bombing, Facebook posting, harassment on online forums etc, to the most dreaded extreme for sex workers – being publicly outed and/or lied about as a sex worker on websites set up to humiliate. When this happens, and sex workers have to deal with…
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A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family
1978 movie Pretty Baby publicity still* As Christmas is for family get-togethers, I occasionally ponder at this time of year, the place of sex workers within, or their relationships with, their families. Lately I have been talking with a few sex workers who have other family members also in the industry. Even though there are…
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What it’s like to be the only one
Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch. It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…
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Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers
I have to say we’re pretty darned lucky in countries like New Zealand where sex work is 100% legal because it means that if anyone tries to harm us, the cops are on our side. Absolutely fabulous situation, it means exactly that because there is the threat, of the long arm of the law who…
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Are you old enough?
Still from the music video of Dragon’s Are You Old Enough? The legal age to be a sex worker in New Zealand is 18 and most sex workers will not accept clients under 18. According to my (light) investigations, there is actually no age restriction for sex workers’ clients other than the age restriction…
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Slightly kink – English
English is not a term that is commonly used to describe caning and other parallel activities, but apparently it used to be and I feel it is quite obvious where that term came from, for anyone who prior to 1980 had any experience of English-style boarding schools, boys’ boarding schools that is. I went to…
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Who’s that talking about you?
Sharon O’Neill (right) who wrote the song Maxine with the actress who played her in the Australian version of the music video (which this image is taken from.) A few days after my Christmas day blog post about whether or not a sex worker should tell her family she is a sex worker, I had a long…
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Places I have worked part 2
London. London was a very strange town to find work in. Luckily I wasn’t desperate for money but I thought it would be interesting to check out the sex work scene, mainly so I could say I had done it. Even though it was equally as illegal to be a sex worker as it was…
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Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?
Image: Wellington Harbour, where I entered into the sex industry as a ship girl Most people who get into sex work get into it initially for one reason and one reason only – they need money fast. Sometimes lingering under or just above the surface though, is an interest in or fascination with the sex…
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The money, honey part 2
Disclaimer: This lovely pile of dosh was not all earned by Amber O’Hara, neither is it indicative of an amount a “typical” sex worker could expect to earn on a daily basis in New Zealand One skill that all working girls could consider getting would be the knowledge of how to keep a cash…
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The money, honey part 1
It’s not that hard to go legit as a hooker, so I thought I would share a few things that I have found in case any other working girls who read my blog are interested. The first thing is to remember that we are actually in a pretty fortunate position here in New Zealand,…
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To the men who respond to my newspaper advertisements
my little advert Please don’t think that because I’m advertising in the Press or your free community newspapers, alongside the traditionally lower-priced but sometimes fictional Asian agency ladies, that I am also prepared to offer my services for lesser amounts than I advertise elsewhere. If the truth be told, I would love to see you,…
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Then and Now
Back in the day, before the Prostitution Reform Act happened here in New Zealand, I was a sex worker for a time, and I have to say, things really have changed, and not just legally. Life was different then, in that soliciting was illegal. From what my fellow sex workers and I understood, this meant…