Category: relationships
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Exploring this blog
My first R18 splash page on the hosted website using my own domain Welcome to my website! Remember when most new websites had that on them? I remember attending a course for a company I worked for and the instructor specifically said it was a no-no. “We don’t write Welcome to our Brochure on our…
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Love as community
Tiziano Vecellio, called Titian (b. Pieve di Cadore, ca. 1488-d. Venice, 1576), Venus Blindfolding Cupid, ca. 1565, Borghese Gallery, Rome A contemplation on Amber O’Hara’s What gets women off? and Love within Sex Work. Amber O’Hara proposes an interesting question in her two part series What gets women off? One guesses she explores this question…
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Is your New Year’s resolution to have more sex?
Image: Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise in Eyes Wide Shut In 1999, Stanley Kubrick released his last film, Eyes Wide Shut, which starred Kidman and Cruise, ‘a Hollywood couple whose marriage was in trouble, about a New York couple whose marriage was in trouble.’ It was famous for an orgy scene, but in the subtext of the…
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Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)
I’ve seen the OWE (other woman experience) happen a wee bit in my time doing sex work. Last year a working girl friend of mine had a year long (in his eyes it was an affair) series of bookings with a regular client who declared his undying love, promised exotic holidays which she turned down…
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The Joy of Sex (Toys)
Gif: One of my favourite actresses, the late Anita Morris getting off on a mini vacuum cleaner from the film Ruthless People (a must-see if only for two of the great redhead stereotypes) The other week when a lovely client was going down on me and I was focusing on the amazing sensation, it dawned…
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Desire: The Secret
The Fisherman and the Syren by Frederic Leighton (1858) Sometimes when I start writing, if I have a theme or an idea I want to think about, I search online for the single word or phrase. I did this with desire only to discover that there are many self-help books out there around spirituality, in particular…
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Fantasies about men
Still from music video: It’s Raining Men, by the Weather Girls When I’m not doing sex work full-time, I actually miss fucking, and as a result of this, my imagination works overtime. I occasionally work in an office, answering the phone: “Good morning, (Company Name). (My real name) speaking” and generally being a real little…
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What gets women off (part two)
Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there was a epidemic of sexual dissatisfaction called Hysteria. Women all over the place were getting it, the symptoms were vast and doctors were treating it by massaging the clitorises of their patients. This method of treatment would result in what was then known as a paroxysm,…
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What gets women off (part one)
It’s been widely concluded that it’s harder for women to get aroused than men, and that it takes longer. That some women lose interest in sex. That some women have a lower libido overall than most men. The thing is with (straight) men, a glimpse of bosom or derrière seems to be able to do…
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So, you are the black sheep of the family…
Christmas is the time of year when we are confronted by where we came from – most of us, while not necessarily being physically present with our family members, at least make contact with them – and the realities of who they are (and maybe what they have always been like) becomes glaringly apparent. Families…
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Can his family affect a man’s confidence in bed?
Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny de Vito, two quite sexy dudes, played test-tube brothers in the film Twins* My usual Christmas blog posts have something related to families since this is the season to be with our kin or if not, due to distance or some other factor, at least give our thoughts to them for…
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Forced conversations when you’ve been outed
Cyber bullying comes in many forms, from the relatively mild (but still harmful) tweet-bombing, Facebook posting, harassment on online forums etc, to the most dreaded extreme for sex workers – being publicly outed and/or lied about as a sex worker on websites set up to humiliate. When this happens, and sex workers have to deal with…
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Sex Workers’ Supporters: Please take a bow
Sex work: sometimes it really is fields of daisies and buttercups. Painting by John William Waterhouse. Frequently during discussions about sex work, the subject is raised of bitches and bitchiness among sex workers. Perhaps images of girls pillow fighting while wearing skimpy underwear is tantilising, and often there are suggested scenarios of “professional jealousy” causing…
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A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family
1978 movie Pretty Baby publicity still* As Christmas is for family get-togethers, I occasionally ponder at this time of year, the place of sex workers within, or their relationships with, their families. Lately I have been talking with a few sex workers who have other family members also in the industry. Even though there are…
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Fifty Shades of Fucked Up*
NOT a scene from the film but these are the male and female leads. *”Fifty Shades of Fucked Up” is how the character Christian Grey describes himself. I did not leave the cinema totally disappointed, I have sat through worse films than Fifty Shades of Grey. This is a nice little film. It is ok. …
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What’s the deal with female orgasms?
Oh my. To my delight, my phone has been ringing lately with a few gentlemen who actually express that they have an intention for me to also come (or cum, but I prefer the other spelling). I think it is wonderful that for whatever reason, and there are probably many motivations for this, men are wanting…
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Seduce me with song
The End of the Song by Edmund Leighton(1902) illustrates the story of Tristan and Iseult, a tragedy about the adulterous love between the Cornish knight Tristan (Tristram) and the Irish princess Iseult (Isolde, Yseult). There are so many secret nerves in the body, that it is impossible to keep track. There is a nerve which…
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Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?
The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot. For some reason, it really does it for me. Mainly because I find oral, from this angle in particular (as opposed to from the downward approach during 69ing), the most pleasing thing ever, and if a man…
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Pleasure
Poor is the man* Whose pleasures depend On the permission of another From Justify My Love by Madonna © 2006 WMG Pleasure, according to a book I have been reading about women and aging, is something women deny themselves far more than is good for us. Apparently there is something that is released in our…
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Does the G-Spot exist?
Meg Ryan from When Harry Met Sally This is just a short post because occasionally I hear people saying the g-spot is a load of old cobblers. That may or may not be true as far as any anatomical identification goes in medical school. Rumour has it that it is the secret internal spot on the…
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Sublime Pleasure – how long is a piece of string?
Amore e Psiche by François-Édouard Picot (Painted 1817, Paris)* “How many times did you come?” is a question that many men wonder or even ask ladies after they have ascertained that their partner did actually orgasm while they had sex. However, orgasm for women is often not that cut and dried. I’ve been curious about…
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Orgasms – the great anti-aging secret?
Image: Jane Fonda – still hot in her advancing years – although she admits she has had plastic surgery, she is open about a happy sex life and her appreciation of porn. Could this be the real reason she still has a rather sexy twinkle in her eye? I’ve lost count of the number of…
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Fake cocks in bisexual fantasies?
It’s said that we are all bisexual to a degree with some being closer to the gay end of the spectrum and others being closer to the straight end but mostly we are somewhere in between. I personally identify as bisexual but as I don’t have available a regular girl playmate who is also a…
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Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?
“I loved you since I knew ya, I wouldn’t talk down to ya”…* I’ve known sex workers since I began working as a teenager who have been in long term relationships with people since before they were sex workers, as well as relationships which started while they were sex workers with their clients and with…