Category: starting out
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Evolution of an escort
Click here for enlarged image of The Garden of Earthly Delights by Hieronymus Bosch. *Image information at the end of this post. I have been interviewed about being an escort a couple of times in Australia many years ago and not so long ago in New Zealand. I personally love to hear stories of how things…
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Don’t go back!
I wanted to do a follow up post to my very early ones about some of my favourite things to wear for sex work. I could have deleted those posts (not just because they are dated) celebrating my black corset, red body suit, white lingerie and red satin corset but I wanted to keep the…
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Exploring this blog
My first R18 splash page on the hosted website using my own domain Welcome to my website! Remember when most new websites had that on them? I remember attending a course for a company I worked for and the instructor specifically said it was a no-no. “We don’t write Welcome to our Brochure on our…
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My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)
Disclaimer: I have never seen Charlie Sheen as a working girl Some celebrities, like Charlie Sheen, are well-known for having enjoyed the services of sex workers, and others have managed to keep it on the down low. It’s not as if Mr Sheen outed himself, but he doesn’t seem overly bothered that it is out…
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Selling sex
It seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why. To me, it is one of the most exciting parts and it is what differentiates us sex workers from the…
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Sex work, mental health and sex addiction
From the show The Daring Young Man on the Flying Trapeze by Max Gimblett I found it interesting when a sex worker I am acquainted with wrote that her father, on finding out she was a sex worker, enquired as to how she was going to safe guard her soul. He could just as easily have…
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What it’s like to be the only one
Stephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch. It seems that even though our laws are similar, that is, that penetrative oral sex must also be covered, in recent times, in Australia sex workers have…
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Love Within Sex Work
I found this tweet the other day and it really resonated with me. It’s because I feel exactly the same about my clients. I really love those dudes! A lot of the time I give my heart and soul to my clients, and get it back in spades. Which got me thinking. Is this professional,…
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Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers
I have to say we’re pretty darned lucky in countries like New Zealand where sex work is 100% legal because it means that if anyone tries to harm us, the cops are on our side. Absolutely fabulous situation, it means exactly that because there is the threat, of the long arm of the law who…
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Is Christmas the right time to tell your family you are a sex worker?
So, you’ve been holding on to a big secret about being a sex worker on the side, you’re over it, and you suddenly feel the urge to confess all to your family, and what better time than when your entire family has come together to celebrate the birth of Christ? Like ripping off a band-aid,…
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Let It Be Known
I really love what I do. I honestly feel that what I do helps mankind and is almost a spiritual service. I don’t mind if you laugh. I’m not saying I’m holy, or godly – I realise I’m the polar opposite of a nun. But I know that I’ve helped people through this line of…
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OUT!
The Scream by Edvard Munch One thing sex workers seem to fear most is being outed, or an aspect of their lives being outed, and interestingly it is probably the most well-used threat some sex workers make against others. However, quite often sex workers let things slip, for example by their lifestyles or in conversations…
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Advice from a Client
Les Nymphes et le Satyre by William Bouguereau. 1873, Clark Art Institute, Williamstown, Massachusetts. I welcome contributions from readers and clients, and while the contributor below has never been to see me, I gather he has chalked up quite a bit of experience seeing working ladies in his time. Over to him: I have been…
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Politics and Working Girls
A working girl (in the other sense of the word or apparently the equal of*) Like all tales of politics, this could get long and boring. Personally, I have spent my life being a tiny dot amongst big groups of people starting with my huge immediate and wider family and large church communities, various groups…
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Why would you want to be a sex worker?
Veronica Veronese* by Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted in 1872 with Alexa Wilding as the model. It is believed to represent “the artistic soul in the act of creation”. I’ve always liked new beginnings although of course generally they are nothing more than a mental reset. So the start of a new year is as good a…
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Dear Baby Hooker…
Congratulations! You’ve recognised that you can put a value on something that there is a bit of a demand for and decided to become a sex worker. Here are some things that I’ve gleaned over the years, or that I wish I’d known way back when. Once you’ve been a sex worker, you will always…
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Are you old enough?
Still from the music video of Dragon’s Are You Old Enough? The legal age to be a sex worker in New Zealand is 18 and most sex workers will not accept clients under 18. According to my (light) investigations, there is actually no age restriction for sex workers’ clients other than the age restriction…
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Fear of Fifty
Flidais, my favourite Celtic Goddess, of a voracious sexual appetite Part of us wants to love like the goddesses — coldly and capriciously. Part of us owes allegiance to Kali, eating her lover and attaching his skull to her waist. Part of us wants to love like Juno, scooping up mortal men, toying with them, then…
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Slightly kink – English
English is not a term that is commonly used to describe caning and other parallel activities, but apparently it used to be and I feel it is quite obvious where that term came from, for anyone who prior to 1980 had any experience of English-style boarding schools, boys’ boarding schools that is. I went to…
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Slightly kink – Greek
The tiniest bit of what I do is slightly kink, so if you get slightly squeamish about anything that is not totally straight you may want to skip this post. Because it’s about anal. I first heard about anal sex as an enjoyable concept when I was a young woman. A friend of mine…
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Slightly kink – Japanese
I don’t know if it is a thing that japanese people* do – but we jokingly call sex while menstruating “Japanese”, referring to the fact that a large red puddle of blood on a white sheet resembles the japanese flag. Yes, more squemishness may be in store for you and you may even doubt this but…
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Who’s that talking about you?
Sharon O’Neill (right) who wrote the song Maxine with the actress who played her in the Australian version of the music video (which this image is taken from.) A few days after my Christmas day blog post about whether or not a sex worker should tell her family she is a sex worker, I had a long…
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All hookers are crazy
Like many sex workers, Brigid was a goddess of contradiction. I do believe that, to a degree, due to the nature of the job, all hookers are slightly crazy. That’s because, among the many other crazy-making issues, the one that is the most anxiety-inducing of all is that no matter how open about what we…
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Who are my clients?
Édouard Manet painting possibly representing clients and sex workers Some people are curious and I have been asked who my clients are. I suspect to make themselves feel better about their negative attitudes towards sex work and to feel removed from it as much as possible, some like to think of sex workers’ clients as…
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Sex work, objectification and being a MILF
Not quite like this, but a still from a funny scene from a great 80s movie, Hotel New Hampshire which is so hot, youtube makes you login to see it. You must watch it. It illustrates my post well. Excuse the foreign subtitles. Every hooker has clients come to her that she prefers over others.…
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Touring Roundup
The Canterbury Plains from the air I have recently completed a wee bit of touring and I thought I would post a few thoughts here. A number of you read my post where I mentioned an incident at a motel, and attention was brought to other incidents where touring working girls had left without paying…
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Be nice to me, Invercargill (and Queenstown)
I, with two of my beautiful working girl friends, are lucky enough to be visiting Invers tomorrow, Friday and Saturday. I think it is my first time, ever, in my whole life that I have ever been there. Imagine my excitement! I’ll then be back in Christchurch on Monday, then I’ll be taking a couple…
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Places I have worked part 3
I’ve always hated this corny song, although this version seems tolerable. Play it while you read my post. A brothel next to a nunnery. Seriously, it was. There was a convent next door to Tudor Court where nuns lived. Once some visiting elderly nuns walked up our path accidentally while the girls were all sitting…
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Places I have worked part 2
London. London was a very strange town to find work in. Luckily I wasn’t desperate for money but I thought it would be interesting to check out the sex work scene, mainly so I could say I had done it. Even though it was equally as illegal to be a sex worker as it was…
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Places I have worked part 1
This is the first part in a series of reminiscences about places I have worked. I mentioned earlier that I had worked as a sex worker one summer as a teenager, back then when it was still illegal. The Penthouse was the first place I worked in when I entered the sex industry in Australia.…