Tag: beginning
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Evolution of an escort
Click here for enlarged image of The Garden of Earthly Delights by Hieronymus Bosch. *Image information at the end of this post. I have been interviewed about being an escort a couple of times in Australia many years ago and not so long ago in New Zealand. I personally love to hear stories of how things…
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Is sex work a profitable business?
A diagram of Michael Porter’s Five Forces based on an image from Porter M. E., Competitive Advantage: Creating and Sustaining Superior Performance (New York: Free Press, 1985), page 5. I once had a lady come and visit me for the day in Christchurch from Wellington because she wanted to interview me to figure out whether…
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Sex work after lockdown
You can’t please all of the people all of the time. You’ll need to login to enjoy this anonymous phone message It seems not long ago that Covid-19 broke out and we were forced into lockdown, and now we are nearly into level 2. According to the government business website, in level 2, non-medical massage…
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Not About The Heart Of Darkness; Whoring As A Profession At The End Of Capitalism*
This is a guest post by Christchurch escort Clio** the Whore. ‘You live in a fantasy’, says my client wistfully. He is lying on my bed in a state of post coital triste, having expounded to me his marital problems. He looks around him, at the beautiful room bathed in golden light with its fin…
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Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word
A mention of Amber O’Hara from a brief round up of websites of sex workers by a kind client I have met sex workers who have fallen in love with their clients and “ended up” together, so I guess the answer to the question, Do sex workers and clients fall in love? is yes. Love can…
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The virgin and the whore
I know someone who decided to save her virginity until she got married, but eventually she became a crusty old unmarried thing rattling around with that dastardly virginity which she just could not lose, as potential husbands became thin on the ground, even with the glittering reward of her virginity on offer. I, on the…
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Why would you want to be a sex worker?
Veronica Veronese* by Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted in 1872 with Alexa Wilding as the model. It is believed to represent “the artistic soul in the act of creation”. I’ve always liked new beginnings although of course generally they are nothing more than a mental reset. So the start of a new year is as good a…
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Dear Baby Hooker…
Congratulations! You’ve recognised that you can put a value on something that there is a bit of a demand for and decided to become a sex worker. Here are some things that I’ve gleaned over the years, or that I wish I’d known way back when. Once you’ve been a sex worker, you will always…
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Are you old enough?
Still from the music video of Dragon’s Are You Old Enough? The legal age to be a sex worker in New Zealand is 18 and most sex workers will not accept clients under 18. According to my (light) investigations, there is actually no age restriction for sex workers’ clients other than the age restriction…
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Where to from here?
Amber O’Hara not ready to turn her back on sex work … yetIt’s hard to believe that it’s almost a year since I embarked again on the sex work journey with certain financial goals in mind. My very first blog post, my personal yet public record of the events related to becoming a sex worker,…
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Slightly kink – Greek
The tiniest bit of what I do is slightly kink, so if you get slightly squeamish about anything that is not totally straight you may want to skip this post. Because it’s about anal. I first heard about anal sex as an enjoyable concept when I was a young woman. A friend of mine…
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All hookers are crazy
Like many sex workers, Brigid was a goddess of contradiction. I do believe that, to a degree, due to the nature of the job, all hookers are slightly crazy. That’s because, among the many other crazy-making issues, the one that is the most anxiety-inducing of all is that no matter how open about what we…
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Places I have worked part 1
This is the first part in a series of reminiscences about places I have worked. I mentioned earlier that I had worked as a sex worker one summer as a teenager, back then when it was still illegal. The Penthouse was the first place I worked in when I entered the sex industry in Australia.…
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Places I have worked – how did I get into sex work?
Image: Wellington Harbour, where I entered into the sex industry as a ship girl Most people who get into sex work get into it initially for one reason and one reason only – they need money fast. Sometimes lingering under or just above the surface though, is an interest in or fascination with the sex…
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The money, honey part 2
Disclaimer: This lovely pile of dosh was not all earned by Amber O’Hara, neither is it indicative of an amount a “typical” sex worker could expect to earn on a daily basis in New Zealand One skill that all working girls could consider getting would be the knowledge of how to keep a cash…
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The money, honey part 1
It’s not that hard to go legit as a hooker, so I thought I would share a few things that I have found in case any other working girls who read my blog are interested. The first thing is to remember that we are actually in a pretty fortunate position here in New Zealand,…
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Trying out online advertising?
Gif: early sex work images of Amber O’Hara, aged in late 40s, escort Since I have been advertising in the Press, I have been very happy with the lovely clients who have come to see me. My phone does not ring too much, but my advertisement in the local newspaper’s Escorts column has supplied me…
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RIP Lou Reed and thank you for my personal sex work anthem
Image: Lou Reed album cover of Transformer, with Goodnight Ladies As a baby hooker back in the day, I listened to Lou Reed every night while I had sex with my clients. It was my first summer as a sex worker, and a fellow private school girl who was saving up for an expensive piece…
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Lay back and have some fun
Or get on top and have some fun, whatever the case may be. It’s officially official. I’ve started work as an escort and I’m available now. Introducing … Amber O’Hara, independent escort, Christchurch, New Zealand.
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Step Five – twitter and my new BFFs
I am having a lot of fun online. I have discovered the fun of twitter. There is much out there to laugh at and enjoy. I have found the twitter community to be lots of fun, and very welcoming. I don’t know if it’s beneficial to me and my “business” although it seems other working girls…
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Step Four – arranging photos
The next step was arranging the photographer. I found an experienced photographer online who came to my premises and took some photos. Although I have already had some test shots taken by friends, the photographer I hired had an amazing camera and lights which has made all the difference. I did not want to pose…
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Step Three – room and prices
Photo: Amber O’Hara in her rented accommodation The next thing to get sorted is the accommodation – where will I be working from? Obviously the place needs to be central, private and discrete with plenty of parking. I am very fortunate as I can rent a room at a very discrete and rather luxurious…
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Step Two – sorting out ads
I have met a couple of working girls (whose identity will remain secret) through the house where I will be renting a room, and have listened to their feedback about advertising. To start off with (and to keep my independence) I intend advertising in the Christchurch Press’s Escorts’ Column. In my ad, I hope to…
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Step One – buying a phone
So before I could do anything, I had to buy a phone. I can’t just sit around fluffing up my hair all day waiting for gentlemen who want my services to find me. Specifically I needed to buy a sim card, as I already have a phone. Because to be an independent escort, you obviously…
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Where to from here?
So … I’ve decided to get back into sex work. Apart from a brief spell at Bon Ton in Wellington almost 3 years ago, I have not “worked” since before it was legalised. Back then there was a host of things to worry about, namely arrest and public exposure in the court pages of the…