Image: The Soul of a Rose by JW Waterhouse

A lot of people call and ask about services, but if they are not that familiar with the sex industry or have never visited a working girl, they may not understand the meanings of some of the terms I (or other working girls) might use.  So I thought it would be fun to write a list of services that some (obviously not all) sex workers provide.

Hand Relief, also known as Happy Endings in establishments which provide massage but not sex: masturbating the client, also referred to as a hand job.

Sex: coital intercourse; a term used specifically for coitus.

Doggy style: sexual position where the sex worker is on all fours and her client’s penis is inserted from behind

Cowgirl: sexual position where the sex worker is straddling on top of her client who is lying on his back, and they are facing each other.

Reverse cowgirl: sexual position where the sex worker is straddling on top of her client who is lying on his back, and he is facing the back of her head.

Full service: normally includes sex in a variety of positions and French on the client – see below for the meaning of french.

GFE (Girlfriend experience): an affectionate sexual service (not offered by every sex worker) which must include french kissing and DATY as well as the usuals offered in full service – see below for the meaning of DATY.

PSE (Porn star experience): a high energy sexual service which goes beyond GFE and usually includes extras as seen in porn, for example, a toy show – see below for the meaning of a toy show.

DFK (deep french kissing): passionate kissing on the mouth with active use of both the client’s and sex worker’s tongues.

Double: involves two sex workers with one client, or, less frequently, two clients with one sex worker.

Bi-double: a threesome with a client and two female sex workers who perform lesbian acts on each other as well as the client.

Straight-double: a threesome with a client and two female sex workers who perform sex acts on the client but not on each other.

Threesome: where a client hires a sex worker to join himself and a companion (sometimes his wife) in lovemaking.

MMF: Male male female.  Where two males hire a female sex worker, or a male hires a female and a male sex worker.

DATY (Dining at the Y): cunnilingus. (Protection – dental dams – are legally required for this service).

French: fellatio – can also refer to cunnilingus but that is usually then known as french on the woman.

English: whipping or caning; a term not in much use nowadays.

Greek (also known as Back Door): anal intercourse.

Spanish: simulated sex between a woman’s breasts.

Toy show: a demonstration of the use of dildos and other sex toys on a sex worker by a sex worker usually, although she may allow her client to use them.

Pearl necklace: where a client ejaculates on a sex worker’s body below her face.

COB (Come on body): where a client ejaculates on a sex worker’s body.

COF (Come on face): where a client ejaculates on a sex worker’s face.

BBBJ (Bare back blow job): Also known as a natural blow job, where a blow job is given without a condom. (Please note, this service is illegal in New Zealand)

CIM (Come in mouth): Ejaculation after a blow job in the sex worker’s mouth. (Please note, this service is illegal in New Zealand)

Golden Showers: urinating on client. (Please note, advertising this service is illegal in New Zealand)

Water Sports: frolicking with basins, bedpans, siphon hoses and enemas often involving urination.

B&D: abbreviation for “bondage and discipline”.

Bondage: shortened term for “bondage and discipline”, which refer to sadomasochism as practised in the sex industry.

Sub (Submissive): where a client or sex worker receives a beating or acts as a slave; opposite role to dom(me) work.

There is a more extensive list of sex work service terms here.