Amber’s writing
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What’s a nice girl like me doing in a job like this?
Read more: What’s a nice girl like me doing in a job like this?So people sometimes ask me, “what’s a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?” Well – First of all, the place I work is really rather nice and I can honestly say,…
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Writing
Read more: WritingFrom Everyday I write the book by Elvis Costello I once met a music industry dude who I enjoyed discussing the art of playlists with. I boldly asked him to compile a mix tape for…
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In praise of quickies
Read more: In praise of quickiesThe Persistence of Memory by Salvador Dali I have to say, I’m not much of a time-keeper in the room. I never schedule bookings back to back, it is very rare that there isn’t enough…
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A rose by any other name
Read more: A rose by any other nameImage: The Soul of a Rose by JW Waterhouse A lot of people call and ask about services, but if they are not that familiar with the sex industry or have never visited a working…
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A Bossy Girl Or a Dominatrix?
Read more: A Bossy Girl Or a Dominatrix?Remember when you were a kid and you’d see a loud-mouthed 12 year old girl getting about with a couple of 10 year old boys in tow hanging on to her every word, she’d be…
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Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)
Read more: Men’s fantasies – Other Woman Experience (OWE)I’ve seen the OWE (other woman experience) happen a wee bit in my time doing sex work. Last year a working girl friend of mine had a year long (in his eyes it was an…
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Men’s fantasies – Porn Star Experience (PSE)
Read more: Men’s fantasies – Porn Star Experience (PSE)It’s the fantasy of a lot of men to fuck a porn star or fuck like a porn star but sadly it is beyond reach for most guys. However if you visit a sex worker…
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Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)
Read more: Men’s fantasies – Girl Friend Experience (GFE)Amber O’Hara’s mirror selfie in her boudoir Men who are single or whose partners are choosing to abstain from sex often have a desire or a fantasy for a more intimate and connecting sexual experience…
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Men love to look
Read more: Men love to lookHow to hold the attention of men* There comes an interesting time in the lives of young women when we realise the effect that our body has on men. It could be when out of…
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To Network or Not to Network
Read more: To Network or Not to NetworkIt can be lonely being a sex worker yet I’ve met a few ladies who prefer to stay away from any socialising online or in real life and keep to themselves. They don’t want any…
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Is your heart safe?
Read more: Is your heart safe?La Belle Dame Sans Merci, painted by Sir Frank Francis Bernard Dicksee Can sex work involve real affection or is one or both parties just being played? I don’t consider whatever feelings I’ve ever had…
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What to do if you bump into your sex worker in public
Read more: What to do if you bump into your sex worker in publicImage: Bob Hoskins and Cathy Tyson from the film, Mona Lisa (1986) We all need to get out and about in the world to buy stuff and whatever, and sometimes we are with our families,…
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Don’t give me culture!
Read more: Don’t give me culture!I share my favourites from the world of culture: film, music and the arts on my “keeper” list. These ones are all erotic and/or sex work related. My favourite typecast actress would have to be…
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Cleanliness and godliness
Read more: Cleanliness and godlinessThe other day I was in a cafe and there was a young mother at the next table. She screwed up her nose a bit and said to her son, about 11 years old, “have…
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Flirting and Squirting
Read more: Flirting and SquirtingMy Nanna when she was alive was an incorrigible flirt. Even as she was dying in hospital, she was batting her eyelashes at and flirting with the male nurses, who were generous enough to humour…
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The Joy of Sex (Toys)
Read more: The Joy of Sex (Toys)Gif: One of my favourite actresses, the late Anita Morris getting off on a mini vacuum cleaner from the film Ruthless People (a must-see if only for two of the great redhead stereotypes) The other…
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Desire: The Secret
Read more: Desire: The SecretThe Fisherman and the Syren by Frederic Leighton (1858) Sometimes when I start writing, if I have a theme or an idea I want to think about, I search online for the single word or phrase.…
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Fantasies about men
Read more: Fantasies about menStill from music video: It’s Raining Men, by the Weather Girls When I’m not doing sex work full-time, I actually miss fucking, and as a result of this, my imagination works overtime. I occasionally work…
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Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L word
Read more: Valentine’s day topic: Sex workers and the L wordA mention of Amber O’Hara from a brief round up of websites of sex workers by a kind client I have met sex workers who have fallen in love with their clients and “ended up” together,…
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I can’t make you love me
Read more: I can’t make you love meIt is probably safe to assume that most of society, even those who pride themselves on thinking progressively, in their heart of hearts, looks down on sex workers, but are mostly too polite to say…
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Lurking and Peering and the Culture of Complaint
Read more: Lurking and Peering and the Culture of ComplaintThe day I visited my friend and fellow sex worker, Clio, at her house*, I was wearing my (non-sex worker-like) day clothes of jeans and a plain, dark woollen top and carrying a large, black…
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What gets women off (part two)
Read more: What gets women off (part two)Once upon a time, in a faraway land, there was a epidemic of sexual dissatisfaction called Hysteria. Women all over the place were getting it, the symptoms were vast and doctors were treating it by…
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What gets women off (part one)
Read more: What gets women off (part one)It’s been widely concluded that it’s harder for women to get aroused than men, and that it takes longer. That some women lose interest in sex. That some women have a lower libido overall than…
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A Way to Spend Money
Read more: A Way to Spend MoneySex work is about sex and money, so I often think about money and what to do with it. Money is just a tool with which we build our freedom, but not having any of…
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Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian doco
Read more: Buying Sex – creative licence and a Canadian docoThis blog post may not be of interest to many readers because it is about a film that not many will get to see and it is not really a film that’s even worth seeking…
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So, you are the black sheep of the family…
Read more: So, you are the black sheep of the family…Christmas is the time of year when we are confronted by where we came from – most of us, while not necessarily being physically present with our family members, at least make contact with them…
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Me as Mrs Jones, a MILF
Read more: Me as Mrs Jones, a MILFMILF, Ms O’Hara, has a thing going on with a number of young and young-at-heart men My non-Amber, slightly frumpy, mother-next-door self lives a double life as an insatiable MILF and this little secret injects a…
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The pleasures of non-sex work
Read more: The pleasures of non-sex workI often write about how much I love sex work, and one of the reasons I love it as a lifestyle is because it gives me so much time to get involved with various projects…
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My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)
Read more: My experiences with celebrities (as a hooker)Disclaimer: I have never seen Charlie Sheen as a working girl Some celebrities, like Charlie Sheen, are well-known for having enjoyed the services of sex workers, and others have managed to keep it on the…
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Sex work is hot!
Read more: Sex work is hot!Image: Flight of the Conchords still from the video Sugalumps That lady with the chopsticks at the beginning of the video. I get like that. So, sex work can be pretty darn hot. Sometimes I…