Tag: life
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The virgin and the whore
I know someone who decided to save her virginity until she got married, but eventually she became a crusty old unmarried thing rattling around with that dastardly virginity which she just could not lose, as potential husbands became thin on the ground, even with the glittering reward of her virginity on offer. I, on the…
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Politics and Working Girls
A working girl (in the other sense of the word or apparently the equal of*) Like all tales of politics, this could get long and boring. Personally, I have spent my life being a tiny dot amongst big groups of people starting with my huge immediate and wider family and large church communities, various groups…
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Why would you want to be a sex worker?
Veronica Veronese* by Dante Gabriel Rossetti painted in 1872 with Alexa Wilding as the model. It is believed to represent “the artistic soul in the act of creation”. I’ve always liked new beginnings although of course generally they are nothing more than a mental reset. So the start of a new year is as good a…
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Celebrating erotic red hair
As I have mentioned in previous blog posts, even though in society there are often disparaging remarks made about natural redheads, there are certain men who have a preference for redheads and find us extremely sexy. As I am one of the few naturally red-haired escorts in my city, I am lucky enough to be…
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Loving relationships: can a sex worker have it all?
“I loved you since I knew ya, I wouldn’t talk down to ya”…* I’ve known sex workers since I began working as a teenager who have been in long term relationships with people since before they were sex workers, as well as relationships which started while they were sex workers with their clients and with…
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Dear Baby Hooker…
Congratulations! You’ve recognised that you can put a value on something that there is a bit of a demand for and decided to become a sex worker. Here are some things that I’ve gleaned over the years, or that I wish I’d known way back when. Once you’ve been a sex worker, you will always…
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Where to from here?
Amber O’Hara not ready to turn her back on sex work … yetIt’s hard to believe that it’s almost a year since I embarked again on the sex work journey with certain financial goals in mind. My very first blog post, my personal yet public record of the events related to becoming a sex worker,…
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Slightly kink – English
English is not a term that is commonly used to describe caning and other parallel activities, but apparently it used to be and I feel it is quite obvious where that term came from, for anyone who prior to 1980 had any experience of English-style boarding schools, boys’ boarding schools that is. I went to…
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Who’s that talking about you?
Sharon O’Neill (right) who wrote the song Maxine with the actress who played her in the Australian version of the music video (which this image is taken from.) A few days after my Christmas day blog post about whether or not a sex worker should tell her family she is a sex worker, I had a long…
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All hookers are crazy
Like many sex workers, Brigid was a goddess of contradiction. I do believe that, to a degree, due to the nature of the job, all hookers are slightly crazy. That’s because, among the many other crazy-making issues, the one that is the most anxiety-inducing of all is that no matter how open about what we…
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Sex work, objectification and being a MILF
Not quite like this, but a still from a funny scene from a great 80s movie, Hotel New Hampshire which is so hot, youtube makes you login to see it. You must watch it. It illustrates my post well. Excuse the foreign subtitles. Every hooker has clients come to her that she prefers over others.…
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Be nice to me, Invercargill (and Queenstown)
I, with two of my beautiful working girl friends, are lucky enough to be visiting Invers tomorrow, Friday and Saturday. I think it is my first time, ever, in my whole life that I have ever been there. Imagine my excitement! I’ll then be back in Christchurch on Monday, then I’ll be taking a couple…
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Places I have worked part 3
I’ve always hated this corny song, although this version seems tolerable. Play it while you read my post. A brothel next to a nunnery. Seriously, it was. There was a convent next door to Tudor Court where nuns lived. Once some visiting elderly nuns walked up our path accidentally while the girls were all sitting…
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Places I have worked part 2
London. London was a very strange town to find work in. Luckily I wasn’t desperate for money but I thought it would be interesting to check out the sex work scene, mainly so I could say I had done it. Even though it was equally as illegal to be a sex worker as it was…
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Places I have worked part 1
This is the first part in a series of reminiscences about places I have worked. I mentioned earlier that I had worked as a sex worker one summer as a teenager, back then when it was still illegal. The Penthouse was the first place I worked in when I entered the sex industry in Australia.…
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The money, honey part 2
Disclaimer: This lovely pile of dosh was not all earned by Amber O’Hara, neither is it indicative of an amount a “typical” sex worker could expect to earn on a daily basis in New Zealand One skill that all working girls could consider getting would be the knowledge of how to keep a cash…
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The money, honey part 1
It’s not that hard to go legit as a hooker, so I thought I would share a few things that I have found in case any other working girls who read my blog are interested. The first thing is to remember that we are actually in a pretty fortunate position here in New Zealand,…
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Trying out online advertising?
Gif: early sex work images of Amber O’Hara, aged in late 40s, escort Since I have been advertising in the Press, I have been very happy with the lovely clients who have come to see me. My phone does not ring too much, but my advertisement in the local newspaper’s Escorts column has supplied me…
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Et tu, Google+?
Amber O’Hara’s now banned Google Plus profile Gosh, it’s as if sex workers don’t have enough to juggle with, without now being overly-censored by the stuffy and the righteous on this vast wasteland of free porn, otherwise known as the Internet. Oh well, Google+, (who are still hoping to become the new Facebook,) which I…
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To the men who respond to my newspaper advertisements
my little advert Please don’t think that because I’m advertising in the Press or your free community newspapers, alongside the traditionally lower-priced but sometimes fictional Asian agency ladies, that I am also prepared to offer my services for lesser amounts than I advertise elsewhere. If the truth be told, I would love to see you,…
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Is it fun to be a sex worker?
Is it fun to be a sex worker? My answer is yes, yes, yes and sometimes not so much. If you are considering doing it, you are likely to meet lots of men, most of whom you would never come into contact with in daily life. Fascinating, eager to please and very sexy men…
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Favourite lingerie – part 4
Channelling the good old-fashioned whore In a previous life, I like to think I would have worked in an old-fashioned bordello, like the lovely one in the film The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas. I just love the cheerful attitude toward customer service, and who can fail to adore the gorgeous Dolly Parton who played the…
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Favourite lingerie – part 3
Amber O’Hara: trying to give the impression she is innocent by wearing white As is obvious, I’m no virgin, and I’m not really interested in doing the schoolgirl fantasy for anyone or anything like that, but every now and then I get the urge to evoke an idea of purity, which white is good for,…
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RIP Lou Reed and thank you for my personal sex work anthem
Image: Lou Reed album cover of Transformer, with Goodnight Ladies As a baby hooker back in the day, I listened to Lou Reed every night while I had sex with my clients. It was my first summer as a sex worker, and a fellow private school girl who was saving up for an expensive piece…
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Indiscretions
My first week of advertising in the Press has been and gone and I have to say, I have loved every orgasmic and almost orgasmic moment this week. My phone hasn’t rung off the hook, not even with cranks during the school holidays, but that could be because kids are more likely to bother escorts…
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Step Five – twitter and my new BFFs
I am having a lot of fun online. I have discovered the fun of twitter. There is much out there to laugh at and enjoy. I have found the twitter community to be lots of fun, and very welcoming. I don’t know if it’s beneficial to me and my “business” although it seems other working girls…
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Step Four – arranging photos
The next step was arranging the photographer. I found an experienced photographer online who came to my premises and took some photos. Although I have already had some test shots taken by friends, the photographer I hired had an amazing camera and lights which has made all the difference. I did not want to pose…
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Where to from here?
So … I’ve decided to get back into sex work. Apart from a brief spell at Bon Ton in Wellington almost 3 years ago, I have not “worked” since before it was legalised. Back then there was a host of things to worry about, namely arrest and public exposure in the court pages of the…