Amber’s writing
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Fond Farewells
Read more: Fond FarewellsThis is a final blog post, by my friend, Clio the ex-whore, recently retired. Retirement only sort of suits me. Only a couple of weeks ago an ex colleague and I were reminiscing over a…
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The joy of (phone) sex
Read more: The joy of (phone) sexAmong the men I am fortunate to sexually liaise with are interesting, intelligent, creative types. One of my clients who I regularly enjoy phone sex with is in this category and he thanked me by sending…
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Sex workers and websites: if you build it will they come?
Read more: Sex workers and websites: if you build it will they come?Although many sex workers are still getting websites built for them or DIYing it with free sites like WIX or blogs, I have heard some saying they don’t know what to do with them (“now…
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Can his family affect a man’s confidence in bed?
Read more: Can his family affect a man’s confidence in bed?Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny de Vito, two quite sexy dudes, played test-tube brothers in the film Twins* My usual Christmas blog posts have something related to families since this is the season to be with…
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Forced conversations when you’ve been outed
Read more: Forced conversations when you’ve been outedCyber bullying comes in many forms, from the relatively mild (but still harmful) tweet-bombing, Facebook posting, harassment on online forums etc, to the most dreaded extreme for sex workers – being publicly outed and/or lied…
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Sex Workers’ Supporters: Please take a bow
Read more: Sex Workers’ Supporters: Please take a bowSex work: sometimes it really is fields of daisies and buttercups. Painting by John William Waterhouse. Frequently during discussions about sex work, the subject is raised of bitches and bitchiness among sex workers. Perhaps images…
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A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family
Read more: A taboo subject: sex workers from the same family1978 movie Pretty Baby publicity still* As Christmas is for family get-togethers, I occasionally ponder at this time of year, the place of sex workers within, or their relationships with, their families. Lately I have…
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Fifty Shades of Fucked Up*
Read more: Fifty Shades of Fucked Up*NOT a scene from the film but these are the male and female leads. *”Fifty Shades of Fucked Up” is how the character Christian Grey describes himself. I did not leave the cinema totally disappointed,…
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What’s the deal with female orgasms?
Read more: What’s the deal with female orgasms?Oh my. To my delight, my phone has been ringing lately with a few gentlemen who actually express that they have an intention for me to also come (or cum, but I prefer the other spelling).…
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Selling sex
Read more: Selling sexIt seems that a few sex workers I have spoken to get a bit funny about the bit where clients hand over the money, and I can’t for the life of me see why.…
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Sex work, mental health and sex addiction
Read more: Sex work, mental health and sex addictionFrom the show The Daring Young Man on the Flying Trapeze by Max Gimblett I found it interesting when a sex worker I am acquainted with wrote that her father, on finding out she was a…
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What it’s like to be the only one
Read more: What it’s like to be the only oneStephanie Hunter – Australian Escort I’ve been in touch with a few escorts from Australia as well as one or two kiwi escorts now working over the ditch. It seems that even though our laws…
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Seduce me with song
Read more: Seduce me with songThe End of the Song by Edmund Leighton(1902) illustrates the story of Tristan and Iseult, a tragedy about the adulterous love between the Cornish knight Tristan (Tristram) and the Irish princess Iseult (Isolde, Yseult). There…
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Exit: Stage Left
Read more: Exit: Stage LeftThere comes a time in a sex worker’s life when, despite the lovely harem of men who are her willing clients, she sometimes thinks that she has had enough of fucking for money. It may…
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Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?
Read more: Going down – is a man or a sex toy best?The first time I saw this image on an ex-punter’s blog, I just about came on the spot. For some reason, it really does it for me. Mainly because I find oral, from this angle…
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Pleasure
Read more: PleasurePoor is the man* Whose pleasures depend On the permission of another From Justify My Love by Madonna © 2006 WMG Pleasure, according to a book I have been reading about women and aging, is…
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Does the G-Spot exist?
Read more: Does the G-Spot exist?Meg Ryan from When Harry Met Sally This is just a short post because occasionally I hear people saying the g-spot is a load of old cobblers. That may or may not be true as…
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Sublime Pleasure – how long is a piece of string?
Read more: Sublime Pleasure – how long is a piece of string?Amore e Psiche by François-Édouard Picot (Painted 1817, Paris)* “How many times did you come?” is a question that many men wonder or even ask ladies after they have ascertained that their partner did actually…
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Orgasms – the great anti-aging secret?
Read more: Orgasms – the great anti-aging secret?Image: Jane Fonda – still hot in her advancing years – although she admits she has had plastic surgery, she is open about a happy sex life and her appreciation of porn. Could this be…
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Love Within Sex Work
Read more: Love Within Sex WorkI found this tweet the other day and it really resonated with me. It’s because I feel exactly the same about my clients. I really love those dudes! A lot of the time I give…
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Fake cocks in bisexual fantasies?
Read more: Fake cocks in bisexual fantasies?It’s said that we are all bisexual to a degree with some being closer to the gay end of the spectrum and others being closer to the straight end but mostly we are somewhere in…
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Talk dirty to me
Read more: Talk dirty to meYou may have noticed that I offer a new service now, namely phone sex. I’ve always been the girl who loves sex and especially loves to talk about sex, I guess that’s why I have…
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Safe Sex (Play) for Clients
Read more: Safe Sex (Play) for Clients(life as art) This long post was originally written for a sex industry association with the brief How Not to Pick the Wrong Sex Worker and the tagline “warning signs for clients”. It has been…
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Safe Sex (Work) for Sex Workers
Read more: Safe Sex (Work) for Sex WorkersI have to say we’re pretty darned lucky in countries like New Zealand where sex work is 100% legal because it means that if anyone tries to harm us, the cops are on our side.…
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Is Christmas the right time to tell your family you are a sex worker?
Read more: Is Christmas the right time to tell your family you are a sex worker?So, you’ve been holding on to a big secret about being a sex worker on the side, you’re over it, and you suddenly feel the urge to confess all to your family, and what better…
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High-class tarts versus low-down whores
Read more: High-class tarts versus low-down whoresPortrait of a Courtesan (c. 1520) by Palma Vecchio I always find it interesting to hear opinions on the classes of sex workers and who fits where. As I mentioned in my post about ship girls,…
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Let It Be Known
Read more: Let It Be KnownI really love what I do. I honestly feel that what I do helps mankind and is almost a spiritual service. I don’t mind if you laugh. I’m not saying I’m holy, or godly –…
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OUT!
Read more: OUT!The Scream by Edvard Munch One thing sex workers seem to fear most is being outed, or an aspect of their lives being outed, and interestingly it is probably the most well-used threat some sex…
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The virgin and the whore
Read more: The virgin and the whoreI know someone who decided to save her virginity until she got married, but eventually she became a crusty old unmarried thing rattling around with that dastardly virginity which she just could not lose, as…
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Advice from a Client
Read more: Advice from a ClientLes Nymphes et le Satyre by William Bouguereau. 1873, Clark Art Institute, Williamstown, Massachusetts. I welcome contributions from readers and clients, and while the contributor below has never been to see me, I gather he…